Personally, i think Malaysians are pemalu. If they are offered something, the usual answer you would get is "x per lah" when most of the time they do want it but too shy to say they do. As a result, to show that you honestly meant to offer them whatever that is, you would have to offer over and over again. It's quite a tiring process coz if you dont do it they would think you ajak2 ayam jer. But in the end if you offer them too many times, they have to say yes but terpaksa kind of yes sbb x nak lukakan hati org yg offer pulak. Now it is becoming pure complicated.
So surely there is a rule of thumb as to how many times you offer something and if they still refuse by then, it really means 'No, thank you'. From what I heard, the Malay's offer limit is three and I take this as my guideline even when offering to non Malays. So that is one problem solve, for me at least.
The next question is how many times do u offer someone to join in an activity and get turned down before you should take it as 'I am not interested to join any of your activities'. I tried applying the three times rule but cannot because every activity is unique in its own way. Maybe that person do not like one kind of activity but like the other one. But, when the 'no' keep coming in my way that I rasa macam terhegeh2 je when it is obviously the other party is not interested. So berapa kali kena ajak before i can stop so as not to be considered being rude?
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yeah.. i'd use the '3 times' rule too. and i dunno this is related or not but wut's with us and leaving the last piece on the plate untouched? semorg mesti tak nak ambik... being courteous to give others the last piece ke, or malu org kata pelahap ke.. i dunno lah... but membazir la... kan?
eh yeah la. Last piece selalu no takers. Kengkadang if ngan org x biasa malu gaks nak amik but if with you the babes..kiter rebut jer x? hikhikhik
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